A friend recently told me that I was the third person she personally knew who was a victim of domestic abuse. "1 in 4", I told her, "those are the statistics for women being victims of domestic abuse." For those who know me personally, the following might look a little familiar. I posted this on my personal Facebook page on June 1st, 2019. But in light of the conversation with my friend, I wanted to share it on this blog too, There are several different types of domestic abuse: physical, verbal, psychological, sexual, and financial. None of them are okay. It's hard for people on the outside to see most forms of abuse because abuse doesn't always leave visible signs. And even physical abuse stays well-hidden by intelligent sociopaths inflicting it. You can see the pictures I mentioned in that post on my About page. The other interesting thing about the recent conversation with my friend was that I also know one of other two women she mentioned. And just like people have said to me when they hear what happened in my home, I too was shocked to hear what had happened to this other family. When someone tells me they are shocked to hear what happened, I don't take that to mean that they have doubts about it. My own shock regarding the mutual friend wasn't, "Oh, I don't belive it. So-and-so could never do that." Because I know all too well that abusers play to the crowd. Mine was the most generous man...to everyone but us...his wife and children. To us, everything was his, nothing belonged to us, and he was going to leave us penniless and destitute...kick us to the curb...blah, blah, blah... As soon as my friend told me how this other man had abused his wife and family, even though I had never known that side of him, it all made complete sense. It was staring us all in the face for so long. His abuse was quite evident...all the while he played sweet and nice to everyone on the outside. As my friend put it, "We don't live with each other to know what goes on in each other's homes". 1 in 4 and 1 in 9...it's going on all around us. #DomesticAbuseIsNotOkay
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The purpose for this blog is to be a beacon of hope to others trapped in abusive relationships and to educate others to recognize abuse that may be going on in the lives of people you know. There is real help available to domestic abuse victims, but sometimes it is hard to find and hard to take that necessary step to freedom. But there is a way out. I want to share all that I have learned so far on this journey into my new life as well as everything that I will continue to learn along the way.
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Psalm 22:24 "For he has not despised or abhorred the affliction of the afflicted, and he has not hidden his face from him, but has heard, when he cried to him."
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