My two adult sons and I listened incredulously to the excuses being offered up by our abuser's parents. They had received jail system phone messages a few days after my husband had been arrested for 3 counts of Domestic Battery. So they called my oldest son (with a nauseating sound of "Oh, this will be good gossip.") to find out what was going on.
My son dialed his Papa's number and put the phone on speaker. The exchange went something like this:
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One of the biggest (if not the biggest) barriers for domestic abuse victims to leave their abuser is money. Without the means, a victim has a difficult road trying to finance her escape.
This money barrier was definitely a major factor in my own situation. Even though my husband made a lot of money (especially compared to the local economy), he never learned how to save or delay his own wants. So, we often lived paycheck-to-paycheck with most of his income going toward debts. I even had to cover the check he wrote for our courthouse wedding because he was kiting checks. Being on the surviving side of domestic abuse (finally), I have a strong desire to help others. Knowing that a large percentage of women are helplessly trapped in a hopeless life at the mercy of a cruel and selfish abuser hurts me deeply. The abuse is bad enough on its own, but trying to find your way out of it is such a daunting task. I can't imagine going back after finally getting the courage to call 911 and having him removed from my life, but the reality is that far too many women do just that. They go back to their abuser time and time again, creating a vicious cycle.
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The purpose for this blog is to be a beacon of hope to others trapped in abusive relationships and to educate others to recognize abuse that may be going on in the lives of people you know. There is real help available to domestic abuse victims, but sometimes it is hard to find and hard to take that necessary step to freedom. But there is a way out. I want to share all that I have learned so far on this journey into my new life as well as everything that I will continue to learn along the way.
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Psalm 22:24 "For he has not despised or abhorred the affliction of the afflicted, and he has not hidden his face from him, but has heard, when he cried to him."
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